Thursday, April 22, 2010

I now pronounce you...mom and dad.

We did It! We stood in Russian court yesterday and explained to a judge why we would be good parents for Andre. Once I was able to breathe, it was not an unpleasant experience. Natasha, our Russian fairy godmother, practiced our speeches with us and stood beside us to translate everything to the judge.


Contrary to what most people seem to think about Russians, they are quite warm people. Natasha told us the more emotion we showed in our speeches the better, and that if we were nervous or cried it would be good, because the judge would see we are having the normal reaction to adopting a child.


Danny was charming and cute as always. Everyone in the courtroom cooed and smiled at the pictures of him and Andre together. Just like at the baby home, much ado is made about how much they look alike. Usually the man does most of the talking in court, but for some reason the majority of the questions were directed to me. Questions like: "What is your attitude about the woman who sent the boy back?" and "You are involved in women's liberation. What are you liberating the women from?"


We then talked a bit about my novel and the judge read through our thick file. She stopped at the picture of our dog. She seemed suspicious, "Is he friendly?" She asked. "Yes!" Danny and I quickly answered in unison.


Our hearts stopped briefly when the prosecutor talked about how it's a difficult decision given the current conditions, but in this case, she said, I can see these people really love this boy and this adoption is in his best interests.


We stood up for the judge to make her decision. My heart was pounding so hard and tears were brimming at my eyes. Natasha, an adoptive mother herself, squeezed my hand as the judge announced, "According to Russian law, you will hereby be considered mother and father to Andre Alexander."


So, in a few short weeks, he will finally, finally be home.





21 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am crying I am soooo happy for you. What a wonderful day.
~ Heather

ContraWhit said...

I cannot stop the tears. I am so happy for you ALL. Danny, you, Kiddo, and of course Andre, who I cannot wait to meet (but I promise not to overwhelm him.)

SO much love to your new family.

Okay, pass the tissues.

James said...

this is one of the rare times i am at a loss for words. you've worked harder to have a child than most people ever will.

enjoy this.

Phil said...

Brilliant - many many congratulations :)

lynn said...

That is so fabulous!!! Congratulations. Tears abound today!

Laura said...

steph, in the past 10+ years, we haven't been in touch orseen each other at all. . .but i am totally crying!!!! i am SO happy for you. congratulations, congratulations, congratulations!!!!!!!!!

The Ferros said...

Absolutely amazing! We can't wait to welcome Andre to the neighborhood! I can't even express the joy I feel for you two! Congratulations!

MsLisaL said...

I'm all verklempt. I can not wait to meet him!
Love and hugs all around!

Sheryl S. said...

Steph - I only know you from the Russian adoption board (and this blog !) but I am SO happy for you - I can still remember (in 1996 !) how I felt when our translator said "Today, you become Mama and Papa.." There aren't really any words to describe it, are there ? Congratulations to the new family ! And just in time for Mother's Day !

Nicole said...

I am just thrilled for you two!!! Andre is a lucky boy to have such wonderful parents.

Soooooooooo happy!!! Hooray!!!

Yvonne said...

Congratulations, you two! You so deserve it, and I'm certain you're going to make that little boy very very happy!

Kelly said...

The best smile I had today was reading this! I"m so happy for you both and cannot wait to meet Andre! :)

KaylaSosnow said...

Blessings for a happy and healthy life together!

Steve said...

I don't cry that much (or atleast I try not to) but this is just so amazing! I am so extremely thankful for everyone that was involved with this adoption!! I can not wait to come up and see my little nephew!!

Ariel said...

My eyes are welling up! What wonderful news!

Sherilyn said...

Congratulations!

I am so thrilled for you. You are almost done!

Speaktrue said...

Wonderful!! Would love to see you both soon. All My Love, Tracy

Kornopolous said...

PHEW!! what an ordeal. Congratulations!

ZERQ23 said...

Yeah Yeah, Hip Hooray!
I hope you have a safe third trip, and soon!!!

Read your blog from the beginning, loved the marathon pic that you described. The wondow down/monsoon was too funny! Loved the school paper when you 'moop' around!

My Cuban husband and I adoped from Perm, Russia in 2006. Our son was 1 1/2 when we brought him home. I just couldn’t imagine life without out Russian Peanut, who just last night was pretending he was Jake from Avatar… :-)

John Halbrook said...

Great news, Stephanie. I'm very happy for all three of you.

Radical Mama said...

I can't even begin to tell you how happy I am for you. Reading this, again, made my day. Again. I can't wait to meet your son. :)